1dayatatime, I can tell you are very passionate about the subject, but please don’t assume what I understand and don’t. I don’t appreciate your suggestion although if it helps YOU to understand by all means do so.
I am not presuming to speak like an addiction counselor, which I am not. However, the stronger that you argue that “we don’t understand” the more I realize that you are either an enabler or stuck in the parsha. At any rate Hatzlocha Rabbah.