I myself have never heard that, which doesn’t mean that it isn’t true just that I haven’t heard it, but I can tell you that friends and family CAN mess up shidduchim whether they intend to on a conscious level or not. Shiduchim do best when they are conducted as quietly as possible. It is best NOT to speak to your friends about your dates, it is best to discuss your dates with as little people as possible because they can offer the wrong kind of advice. It is better to have one or two people you can trust such as parents, a Rav, a mashpia, a dating coach, that is non-biased and not looking for what THEY want or what THEY think you need. It is best to find support who has is a good listener and a good sounding board and who can allow YOU to make your own decisions instead of telling you what THEY think YOU should do.
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