thats why my name is kavod hatorah and yours is not i listen to my rebbe unlike you who if you disagree you just do what you want.
I am not under any obligation to listen to a rebbe’s advice (unless it’s not actually advice he’s dispensing but halacha… but that’s not the case here). I will certainly give it weight, but at the end of the day, I know my marriage better than my rebbe does. My rebbe (even if he is as great as R. Huttner) does not know how my wife will react to various stimuli or situations. I have a much better knowledge about this than they do… and as such, I have much better information about my marriage than they do.
And, of course, if I am to honor my wife more than myself (as is proper), then I *should* be the one taking out the garbage.
The Wolf