The first girl I dated I walked to the door. She in no uncertain terms told me to stay in the car! Next girl (a few dates later) asked me if I “was a stalker”. That cured me and over all changed my perspective. I would feel funny if someone leaped to open doors for me and followed me to my door! The average (bais yakov) girl probably feels the same. I did get a few questions throughout my dating career if i didnt open doors beshitah to which i would answer “no, I just want you to be comfortable”. I found that girls responded realy well to that and would launch into dating storys about the guy that grabbed their coat… Guys, do whatever feels natural. Most importantly, pay attention to what your date is saying, show a litle empathy and understanding. for example, if you pick her up right after work or school then get her something to eat (nothing fancy. just food!). Just be an overall mentsch and dont worry about the dating rules. and girls, leave the guys alone! Yeah, the average yeshiva guy willl NOT be suave and slick!
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