I agree with cleverjewishpun that people aren’t accepting of each other’s differences. When people first came to America the divide between Orthodox and Shomer Torah and Mitzvos and the irreligious Jews. I think thats why the Orthodox Jews weren’t accepting of the irreligious Jews since they needed to protect themselves.
But nowadays, things are different and we need to be more accepting. If a school teaches that people who work or have a TV or who’s father wears jeans or whatever aren’t good Jews and frum Jews – THAT’S NOT TRUE!!!! And it’s not the way WE do it and they alienate people who have slightly different Hashkafos…
People need to learn to live and let live. If they’re not doing something assur (that was written in the Torah and not in your book) LEAVE THEM ALONE!!!
If you don’t want to marry someone who wears jeans, fine don’t no one is forcing you to but that doesn’t mean they’re a bad person.
If you don’t want to have a TV in your home, don’t but just because someone does have a TV in their home doesn’t make them any less frum than you.