Be good -I actually have complained about this millions of times. I wanted to sit and learn, but I couldn’t get a normal shidduch because I had a bad reputation that I wasn’t the biggest “Masmid”.
Noone even cared about Midos. I know I have a lot better Midos than some of these “Masmidim”. But I don’t think anything has changed in the last 20 years. People don’t care about Midos; they base your reputation on things like money, good learner, popular, Hasmoda, etc. To me, all those things are secondary to good midos. If you have bad midos, what are all those qualities worth?