Reply To: Of your Shidduch related decisions what would you change if you could

I’d have checked out muuuuuch more.

I would have found out more about the way he treats people he ISN’T TRYING TO IMPRESS,like immediate family,and “plain” people.

I’d have found out waaaaaaaay more about his 5 totally OTD years(which was hidden from me),for which he maintained much nostalgia,beneath the new Borsalino and scraggly beard.

And that’s just for starters.

BUT MOST OF ALL I WOULD HAVE DAVENED MUCH MORE SPECIFICALLY FOR A GOOD SHIDDUCH,he should have real yiras shomayim,be honest,be kind, NORMAL,etc.

I don’t think of myself as anywhere near perfect,so don’t start beating me up on that.

SOME FLAWS CHALLENGE A MARRIAGE,ABUSE KILLS IT.

Read that again.It’s the truth.