bochur24: I didn’t say it’s only thinking of yourself. If you’re going to call it love, its love of yourself. But I sure hope that you deeply care about the person you are about to marry. Part of that would be engaging in selfless acts, as they present themselves. True love, however, can only come after marriage.
As an aside, why would doing something for another person cause you to cry? Is everything OK? Is something else causing you pain?