I think the second can be more difficult to deal with. With the first, there are many reasons why the other side would say no, none necessarily having to do with your personally. I can recall several times when this happened, like when the other side didn’t want to go out at that time, or was involved with something else, etc. But with the second, you’ve already become more involved in the Shidduch and given your ‘yes’ for a second date. Then, when the other side says ‘no’, it’s pretty much for personal reasons. Even if the other side feels that the personalities don’t go together, you have still invested more in this, and it may hurt more. Of course, as you mentioned, there is not necessarily a reason to feel this way, but we are all human, after all.
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