I cannot respond to “feelings’ (yiddishemishpacha). If you feel that a sheitel is not for you, don’t wear it. Others may-if so desired- rely upon virtually all posking that a sheitel is allowed. BTW- “peah nochris” (a sheitel) goes back to gemoro’s times….look it up.
mdd- actually, yes, if I would see someone do something that”looks” like an aveirah, I would 1)first, try to be dan lekaf zechus,like maybe he is driving his car to hospital for pikuach nefesh. 2)if this is not the case, then I would try explaining to him/her that it is wrong and 3) if neither of these is the case, well, maybe there is a way to be mattir this-like ‘cholov’stam’ -the subject of another thread.
mdd-the only think that I know is a “midoraisa” and neither lav or ashe is “halacha lemoshe misinai’ (like certain aspects of tefillin). But the appelation ‘das moshe’ is very specific only to this matter of a woman’s hair. As I said, I don’t know what it means. “iytai’ has showm you many examples where “deoraisa” in the gemoro doesnt’ necessarily mean min hatorah.