Sometimes we have to choose to forgive even though we don’t forget. Sometimes the people we love the most are the most difficult people in the world to deal with but if it wasn’t for them we wouldn’t even be here. So we take a deep breath, put a smile on our face and do what we need to do. It is a challenge but one that we can overcome.
Maybe it is Hashem who is testing us and not our parents who are testing us. Do we dare fail at this test? Would our parents have turned their backs on us if we were difficult children? Can we honestly say that WE never hurt our parents, can we truly remember all the way back to when we were infants? We are not expected to do the impossible, just love them and respect them and do what we can.