I don’t know why people don’t take the “Chashash Kidushin” more seriously. Would you play with a light switch on Shabbos? Of course not. Kiddushin is 1,000,000 times more serious. If you are proposing, stay away from the ring or anything that remotely looks like you are making a real kidushin. Please, don’t mess up, the ramifications could be for generations.
Please address my question above. If both parties know and understand that the ring is not for kiddushin, why would you think there is a possibility that it’s a valid kiddushin.
I gave my niece a birthday present last year. Do you think I’m married to her because I didn’t explicitly say “this isn’t for kiddushin?” After all, we both knew that it wasn’t for kiddushin, even though we didn’t say it.
The Wolf