I don’t think the forum mentioned kids around the house with non Jewish help. Anyway, cleaning help is sometimes not a luxury but peace of mind that adds up to Shalom Bayis. Every family decides how to budget their money. Some need the latest jewelry and clothing where others will rather have a peaceful home by having household help.
One can work around to have the help when the children are not home. If one does, they can provide them with clothing fit the bill of tznius which today can be purchased and sort of looks like a uniform.
We hide the wine in closed closets to which the help does not have access.
Remember we hire them to clean, not to raise our children and babysit them. Non Jewish or not frum babysitters should be another forum.
We once had a frum tenant who babysits. One of the jobs she had was for a very balibatishe family who really support many Mosdos both here in Brooklyn and elsewhere. They always have live in domestic help. However, when the children were young, this man wanted his wife to be able to rest during the day, so they hired this tenant of ours who went over for a couple of hours(i don’t recall if it was 2 or 3 hours) to be with the children while the mother rested. No it was not no Mexican, Polish or other ethnic or very young person who cared for the children.