SJS,
Yes, it’s a good question to ask about him.
As I tried writing earlier, I notice that those of you who have no problem with this are the same proponents of girl-boy friends in the thread about that.
To those of us who hold it is Assur, doing it for the sake of being more comfortable, more fun, and for the couples to know each other better are no Hetter. As far as seeing him in many situations, that’s a valid reason for being with him, but to mingle with other boys for that purpose does not fall under the category of dating to get married.