isn’t dating for the purpose of finding your bashert and getting married?? how would such a thing bring u closer to the ultimate goal? “
yes, you are right about that. But sometimes two people feel a little uncomfrotable with each other alone, at first, but in a group situation (and it can be a VERY small group), their shybness is less pronounced and they develop a comfort zone.
Clearly this is not a typical dating mode for yeshivish people, but some of my most memorable dates were doubles with our close friends. Going mini golfing, for example, is more fun with another couple, or even going out for dessert or coffee.