As my s/n suggests, I am a guy and I have gotten into relationships with a few girls where it didn’t work out. Even when it was mutual or my side, it was somewhat hard. It was much harder when it came from the girl. Anyone who doesn’t understand this has b”H never been in the situation and is completely clueless about relationships. Hashem created us to have companionship. When we have it, and then we don’t it is, as someone pointed out, akin to losing a loved one. I am not talking about going out with a girl once or twice (although for some people that is difficult in its own way for different reasons). I am talking about a relationship where you feel comfortable calling the other person or showing up at their house whenever you feel like it, etc. It is almost like being married in a small way. To lose that person is like losing a limb, c”v. It’s never easy to get over. Some circumstances are easier than others but it is absolutely always hard. Anyone from the yeshivish (5 dates and you’re engaged) world would have no clue about this (not that there is anything wrong with that approach but it doesn’t facilitate sensitivity in this field).
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