Sac; i’m really trying here but I can’t agree w/ you,
Chayecha Koidmin. you come first, however there is a problem
with an ayin horah from the person who harbors feelings towards
that great catch. So I suggest asking them, not for permission C”V just that they try to detach their imaginable hold
on that person and not to hold any ill feelings.
So If one find themselves the person harboring feelings know
this, it is absolutely Assur to not Fargin (yiddish) another yid
especially your friend, & it only backfires.
For HB”H will not send anything good your way if you don’t think your friend deserves something good too. Don’t forget that you can’t be w/ that person, for they aren’t into you.
HB”H judges Middah kneged Middah like the person judges others.
However, If you find it in your heart to Fargin your friend
knowing “It takes two to tango” anyhow, HB”H will surely send
you a much better person who you will learn to love more
(after marriage ;-)) (I couldn’t resist) bizchus you overcoming your feelings to do the right thing, which is letting go of someone that doesn’t even want to be with you.
Don’t you deserve someone who really likes & appreciates you for you & wants to be with you? I’m not talking to anyone in particular just in general.