Reply To: Dating Someone Your Friend Went Out With

Reply to Derech HaMelech:

You are right to an extent but if it does work out then your friend would wonder why you didn’t tell her. I understand that this is more important than a friendship, but at the same time that is going behind a friends back and it should not be approached that way. If it’s just a friend, then maybe. But if it is a good friend then this is not the way you should end it. Unfortunately, there are cases where real good friendships end because of this.

Even better, I know of a situation where someone dated a person and the family did not approve. They ended up getting married. The question remains, family or future family?

I understand family is more important then friendship, but its the same concept. You shouldn’t put yourself in a situation that’ll possibly end off worse for one. You should discuss beforehand with your friend and if your friend says No, and it’s your bashert, trust me it’ll come around again somehow.