Dunno: but if you refuse to employ the model i’ve presented how are you going to keep them motivated.
Case in point. I was told today of a group of women who decided 3 years ago to work as a group on shidduchim. The put in many many hours, networking, meeting, sharing ideas redding shidduchim following up etc.
over the course of 8 months they set up quite a few dates.
Do you know how many shidduchim they made?
zero….
what do you think happened after 8 months…
they quit….. and decided to leave it to “those who are better at it”
now if they would’ve have been appreciated and compensaed along the way they would’ve stayed the course.
In fact, in speaking to many shadchanim it has become apparent that the primary difference between people who are shadchanim longer term and those that quit early on, is NOT in the skill level, talent etc. BY and large it has to do with finding early success. People that had mazal and made one or two the first month or two stay the course even when they go 8 months without making a shidduch. (as a young shadchan related to me yesterday).
For the majority of people who don’t taste early success, they simply quit and leave matchmaking to those “who are good at it”.
In effect most people who put in the time and effort consistently will make shidduchim and get better at it, just most poeple never stay with it long enough to get there and why should they, it’s a thankless pursuit that subjects one to abuse and harrasment.
Hence we don’t have anyone for the girls to turn to…