So many people running around trying to prove that they are “better” and “different” from those savages known as the “goyim”
Oy, I really don’t think that’s what’s going on here. I think we are all working with different definitions of love.
The society around us throws the word love around to describe many different feelings, including lust (what most modern songs about “love” are really talking about), infatuation (aka, falling in love, preoccupation), connection/intimacy (the love that G-d willing grows in a marriage), gratification (I “love” burgers and fries).
I don’t think anyone here has expressed that any of those feelings are inherently “wrong”, but that the non-frum culture wrongfully distorts and confuses them.