so right
I see what youre saying, but unfortunately, I dont think thats how it works these days. Obviously there are B”H many men who dexerve to sit and learn because they have the desire and the will to do so. And that should definately be applauded. However, many people are saying that that is what they are doing–and then you look behind the scenes and find out theyre learning just beacuse they want to find a good shidduch. And then they sit in the coffee room for three hours during their mid, afternoon and late afternoon break. Meanwhile, their wives are slaving away, working full time, taking care of a brood of children, and expected to have a ive course meal eith hot cinnamon danishes on the tanle for their husbands when they come home after a long day of learning.
Like I said, hopefully this is a very small minority, but it is scary to think – especially when youre in the Parsha – what type of boy the one described to you really is.