AZ. I will clarify the union/organization comment. It goes hand in hand with another comment. Legislating mentchlichkeit. Your word imply the threat, you dont pay, you dont get to play. Unions work that way.
Please clarify this comment of yours.
“The concept IS show the people that you appreciate their time, effort and attempts and they will show your girls attention”
It is a tit for tat game? Pay me, I show your daughter the time of day, you dont, I wont. Sounds like a shakedown, nothing more.
Also, what about boys? They get redd shidduchim automatically? No need for them to pay them anything? Why do you keep harping on the girls and their parents? Is it girls, and their parents who are overwhelming shadchanim? The ones who take all their time and resources? The boys dont require much time, effort or resources so you dont mention them? Is it just how you wrote it, but it applies equally?