APY: A shadchan makes a reasonable suggestion. it is up to the individual sides to do their own reasearch to to see if they want go ahead. The miserable situtation for the girls that you descirbie is a direct result of the present shidduch crisis where the boys hold a huge advantage.
B”H much progress has been made (with a lot more still to go).
I’ve said it once i’ll say it a million times, equal out the numbers and you’ll solve this problem as well problem…..
The suggestion of compensating for date #2 date #4 will go along way towards equaling the nubmers and from a societal point – as opposed to structural change that needs to come from the top and is being worked on- it is the most effective idea on the table.