Whatever the age of the boy, or girl, and whatever the amount of money you do or do not give to a shadchan up front, after a 2nd date or upon the successful conclusion of a shidduch, if people dont date it is all irrelevant. People ask so many inane, insane and outrageous questions, and look to uncover the secrets of the universe in every shidduch, that it takes WEEKS for a single date to happen. Because the girls are on the wrong end of the waiting stick, they bear the brunt of hardly ever going out and growing older. The Ribbono Shel Olam has created enough females to go around so that everyone has a shidduch. I have yet to see it written in any sefer that by certain girls there was no bas kol that said “bas ploni liploni”. We have a stupid system that simply doesnt allow bas ploni to meet with and go out with her ploni. Stop asking so many questions and go out already!
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