Popa,
I agree with you 100 per cent.
The Torah says ‘Vichay Bohem’. We are not obligated to inflict unpleasant chumros upon ourselves.
Re- The Satmar Rebbe had many chassidim withOUT beards who’s wives obviously did not wear koupkes. He respected those Chassidim. In fact, he once said its not the ‘beard’ in the Jew , but the Jew in the beard.