Rocky-
I think there is usually less checking on the girls side because the reality is that girls have to be less picky. A boy has a long list of amazing girls that are all more than willing to go out with him at any time. They have the luxury of being picky, and looking for the best of everything, because chances are they can get whatever they want.
I like to joke sometimes that if the boy is alive and breathing, that’s about all I have to know in order to date him.
Of course, like you said, the only solution is davening. Whenever I get stressed out from this whole process I remind myself that whenever Hashem wants me to meet my bashert, nothing is going to hold it back from happening. It really helps to put things into perspective!