Umm. When I said “non-Hareidi boys” I was deliberately understating the possibilities. There are plenty of very nice guys who are not Jewish at all, but seeing that there is no stigma attached to marrying a Jew any more, they have no reason to shy away. If a woman feels that Yiddishkeit, i.e. the frum community, has abandoned her, she might just feel that there’s no reason not to abandon it.
And yes, the rabbanim in EY have issued a psak that AI is forbidden to single women, which they wouldn’t have done if the issue hadn’t already come up.
Yes, it’s a dangerous situation. What are we doing about it? It could be your own daughter/sister/granddaughter.