I saw this thread earlier in the day, but could not give it the time or response it deserves until lunch time (this topic deserves more than just quick quips).
As the parent of teens, I salute you, Eclipse, for the koichos you’re putting in and assure you, it won’t be for naught. You may not see instant results, but a mother’s love is never lost.
One thing I was told in my earlier days was, no matter what, be sure you kiss and / or hug your child each night before they go to sleep. Unconditional love penetrates really deep!
Hatzlocho rabbah, and may you be zoicha to see nacahs from this child and her children, b’korov mamash!