Hello Kitty:
I find that if you watch project inspire videos and listen to shiurim from rav leff, Krohn and others the time passes rather quickly. Its not supposed to be easy. We tend to forget that we are mourning. We are all mourners on Tisha Bav. I dont think anyone who just lost a loved one thinks oh I just wish the shivah would be over already so I can just get on with my life!