I feel like girls give guys mixed messages, “What, you think I’m not capable of opening my own door?” Yet, you still want your man to be chivalrous. My advice to the guys, be a gentleman! If she is someone hung up on feminism, you can decide if you want to marry Hilary Clinton as the dates progress, however, that doesnt give you an excuse to be a TPT (trailer park trash)
When the guy calls me before the date *gasp* (if this isnt your practice, have the shadchan do it) I ask, are we going casual or formal. Its really very simple, some guys prefer casual some guys prefer simple. Guys, please make the decision! Girls want a decisive man.
Creativity is key. There is no need to go to a lounge, that just shows you are lazy, lazy, lazy. Dont tell me its because you want a quiet setting to talk, there are 100s of quiet places to talk that dont involves hotel lobbys.
No hard or fast rule but: Drinks is an audition, Coffee is cheap, Lunch is an interview and Dinner is someone who is serious.