ok. I’m finally going to write.
I was a 30 something, BT male, normal looking, ashkenaz, college educated but not “a big money guy”, yeshivish hashkafos, no personal baggage but some mild family baggage bachur.
I dated over 60 girls while I was single. I dated EVERY type of girl–FFB’s, BT’s, older, younger, sephardi, ashkenaz, girls that were completely upper west side to yeshivishe girls who needed daddy’s permission to date me and EVERYTHING in between, sometimes i traveled to them, sometimes they travelled to me, spoiled girls, girls from poor families, doctor’s, and every type of ______ therapist girls, single dates, 7th or 8th date, , in-town girls, out of towners, heavy girls, slim girls, and EVERYTHING IN BETWEEN. I never had a shortage of potential dates
I always had people interested and doing their best to set me up–I was rarely not in the parsha. I thank every day, the hard working, well-intentioned people that did there best to keep me in mind–and many followed through.
I am married to a wonderful girl from a wonderful family. I now have my own wonderful family growing by the day. Baruch Hashem.
I do want to ask–is there really a huge shidduch “crisis”. Over the years, I would hear or see or find out that many of these girls eventually got engaged. I am aware that well over half of these girls are married today. unfortunately there were a few girls that, despite all of their great maa’los, will probably always remain single.
I can also say that a majority of the other “singles” from my “days on the market” are all married today–both the guys i was buddies with or saw around town and the “single girls from the area” that were naturally seen and mentioned through the circles that we operated in.
So I always want to say–what shidduch crisis?