Cleverjewishphun, for takonas ha’shavim: there are things which are not eidel-maidel type of things, which are allowed by Halocha between spouses either completely or in modified form. If one of the spouses wants them ,the other has to comply. Many frum women would not have a problem with these things.
Secondly, in addition to what people have already said here, remember chilul Shabbos is very hamur — both, for one’s olam ha’ba, and safety in this world. Please, consider this information.