BP Totty
Firstly, I may be nuts but that has no bearing on the topic at hand.
I was in Israel learning a few years back. I know what goes on there, and as bad as I thought it was, a friend of mine who is involved with Kiruv and knows everybody told me that the situation is insane.
There are a lot of boys that do really low things in Israel. Even if its not the actual “maaseh” they go to dance clubs bars and other types of “clubs.” On any night of the week you can find Yeshivah Bachurim in Ben Yehuda up to who knows what. There are Yeshiva guys in almost every bar, internet cafe (watching movies, porn whatever…Its really out of control.
BP Totty there was a story not so long ago that a Dira in a certain Yeshivah had girl Dira mates. No Im not kidding there were guys and girls renting the same apartment. I dont need to paint the picture of what went on in that place. Supposedly one of teh guys married her so theres a bittersweet ending. But just know, the garbage that goes on is out of control. Most boys arent mature enough to handle the freedom and with money comes all kinds of problems.
There were Diras that were known gambling parlors. The guys stayed up all night playing poker. There was a Dira across the street from mine that had a huge 42″ TV in the dira, full internet access you name it…Im sure these things still go on as its been a few years since I was there and things tend to get worse not better.
If you send your son to Israel, send him to a Yeshivah that will keep an eye on him and if necessary pay for an older Chavrusa like a Kolel Yungerman to keep an eye on him.
100’s if not 1000’s of boys and girls were ruined in Israel because their parents gave them too much money and too much freedom.
BP Totty, I wish I was making this up. I WISH WITH ALL MY HEART