I had a “parsha” in my teen years, that followed me for a while, and kept me out of places / denied me of being considered for shidduchim I would have like to go to / should have been considered for.
Know how I beat it? By proving my critics wrong and overcoming the obstacles without their help (and in some cases, despite their best efforts to derail me).
True, it took a while, but in the end, I came out a winner.
So will you, Eclipse!