It sounds like if a girl does not have an easy-going and chilled personality, she is doomed and no one is going to want to marry her. If that is the case, I feel very bad for myself! I am not the very chilled type….it does not come naturally to me and although it is something that I work very hard on I have not completely changed as that is nearly impossible.
Also, in regard to the discussion about Yichus- I think we see the exact opposite from the Avos. Although they did marry the children on ovdai avodah zora, Yitzchok was careful when sending Eliezer to find a wife that she NOT be from the “low” end of society and she should be from any nation except Cenani….(I have no idea how to spell this….sorry)
So please explain what you mean when you say that guys out there only want chilled girls. If I work on my middos and try my best to be easy going does that mean it’s still not enough? And no I am not pretty or rich so for sure no one is going to want me????