Of course we should move forward. But again, we need to acknowledge facts on the ground and play the game. One should not make his own personal protest against the system at the expense of his daugther’s shidduch. Shidduchim are from shamayim, but stupid isn’t.
We should influence the system to change gradually, and ultilize the system as best as we can for the true tachlis, even if the system isn’t designed for true tachlis.