the victim business is if the woman is being severely neglected,ignored completely,or any other type of abuse.changing one’s mind about a you-learn-and-i’ll-go-to-work agreement should be clarified and guided by a rav both sides respect.LIKE MANY THINGS–THERE’S NO COOKIE-CUTTER P’SAK:IT’S A CASE BY CASE P’SAK.
when i referred to achzorius…i meant DESPITE all the learning the fellow was supposedly doing…some nasty behavior and emotional cruelty was going on.such a person’s wife is absolutely a victim–BUT NOT OF THE SYSTEM!kollel life can be very beautiful.