Keep in mind that in order to conform in the yeshiva world you can’t go out and work. You are basically asking for a guy who learned at least up to three years bais medrash (to be a ben torah) but then tore himself out of that world to go work. How many guys who are not cut out actually last that long and if he did pull himself out after that point you have to wonder why. It’s not common for a good bochur in yeshiva to leave and go work. Now that is not saying that there aren’t good ehrlich boys working but in my experience they have usually been through alot as teenagers and may not be suitable for that innocent bais yaakov girl who just wants to perform her proper role in life (take care of her kids). Even the rare good bochurim who go to college/work I have yet to meet one who doesn’t watch movies at least occasionally. If it were to become more accepted for bachurim not to only “learn fulltime” there might be many healthy well adjusted bochurim who would sit down and make rational decision to go to work/college. These are the bochurim everyone is looking for.
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