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Your thread is full of exaggerations and extremes. There are very few guys today who say “lifetime learning” and very few girls who want that. Anyone who says lifetime is usually cut out for that. The problem is the 3 year, 5 year guys. Many of them are full of it. Specifically 3 years. If a guy wants to learn 3 years it likely means he wants to learn one year and take it easy for 2.
Girls, as a guy I will tell you, there’s a lot of guys in Yeshivah who don’t belong there.
Do a lot of research. If you want the goods on a guy call his dira mates from Eretz Yisroel, speak to ALL of them especially the ones he was with his last zman in Israel. Also speak to his roomates in BMG don’t be afraid to “grill” them ask direct questions. You may be wondering why I would offer this info, the reason is because I am sickened and fed up with the hypocrisy in our Yeshivos and it ticks me off that bad guys who are still bad have the chutzpah to pass themselves off as learners and date good girls. One of the reasons why there are so many broken engagements and divorces is because people usually the girl doesn’t find out the truth until after the engagement or the marriage. You have to do thorough info on the guys.