Coffeefan, are you perchance referring to the CR itself? How to stop oneself from saying things they shouldn’t especially to other Yiddin online? Maybe the tips proposed can be used before nasty comments are written and posted. Maybe people can realize that they are responding to and addressing other Jews who may be older than they are, have various experience and even more knowledge than they do in different areas. And while calming down they can remember the general and specific halachas for derech eretz and kibud which are as important as any other.
Maybe its time to stay off the strong coffee because it brings on “reflux” and allows bile to come up into the mouth or rather transfer to the fingertips and all kinds of acidic remarks spew forth. Even attempts from various threads about “getting along, respect, derech eretz” and such had no effect in taming the results of this very strong brew. It just breeds sinas chinam, loshan horah and motzi shem rah. As with everything it starts off fun in the beginning and enjoyable as strong coffee and espresso tends to do, but eventually it isn’t funny anymore and it steps over the line from being helpful to being hurtful, and the purpose for getting together to have the coffee in the first place is forgotten and that was probably some form of achdus and helpfulness. When it is no longer helpful but harmful and hurtful and it starts to burn a hole in the heart or rip and tear at the fabric of achdus and ahavas yirsroel then the recipe needs changing or the mashgiach needs to be called in for a review of the ingredients. He might have to throw out the spices and additives that makes this coffee bitter and abrasive. He might even have to put up some glass and mirrors to see who will throw the first stone. He might even find a cup overflowing with Hashem’s tears because of the tzar that was caused him.
He might even teach people to speak in first person such as “in my home, we believe”, or “because our RAV said..”, or “Because it says in…..we do….” instead of insulting people and trying to outfrum the frum, claiming that others are not as frum or are not Jewish enough. He might even tell EVERYONE that we all follow the same TORAH and HASHEM is the only judge and HE will judge us all for ALL we do and ALL we say nuch 120. Yup that’s right ALL we do and say, not just what we want him to remember, every single insult we sling and every ounce of mud we throw. He might even teach those who are so sincere that if they truly want to get their message across and want to teach someone something they should take a step back and remember to make it palatable, something a person would want to think about and appreciate. And of course at the end of the day he would remind us that we each have our own RAV that we do trust and that when we are in doubt or we have a sheilah we should always go back and trust that he will find the proper answer for us.