Sacrilege
No I just think that on some level most of us live for other people thats all. For one guy/girl its with money, for the next its with their school choices with the 3rd its their actions or lack of doing certain things because they are scared for “Shidduchim.” Some guys who should be working are still in Yeshiva because “shidduchim” some girls want working boys but say they want learning boys because peer pressure from friends, family…It has different forms but exists in almost all of our lives to some extent. For some girls it will be not going for the job they want or the degree they want…You see what Im getting at?
Im not saying Im immune either but Baruch Hashem I got to the point where I realized I gotta do what I gotta do be me and I dont care if people look at me funny or think Im nuts or whatever.