I would say that the problem begins when anyone brings anything in from lets say the Shulchan Aruch because there has been many seforim and Rebbeim who have expounded on and explained the Shulchan Aruch as well. Many seforim have been written with answers to various questions. And no one can know all of them unless you area a RAV who sits and learns all day or knows where to look things up. That’s my point. WE all know what we know, and we will all bring down just what we know to prove our own point and that is why someone else will bring down a differing view and in many threads it becomes a discussion in Gemarah. That is what chavrusah’s are all about, discussing a certain sugiah from different perspectives till they come to the same conclusion.
So what one person believes is an “issur” for instance like being on the internet for one thing which most poskim will say is assur, others say its not, and many will find the right Rav to give them the answer they want. I wonder if all the Frumest of the Frum even asked their OWN Rav if it is ok for them to be here to begin with. So much for issurim, and then there is one of the biggest ISSURIM that you seem to wish to look away from and that is Loshan Horah and motzi shem rah? Why do you ignore those issurim.
Really what’s the point, we are just going to get nowhere as usual.