Aries, im sorry that you feel personally attacked in this forum. As Yidden, we all feel very strongly about Torah and you can tell from the way people are passionate about their stance, that Torah means the world to them and they are rightfully not willing to compromise on even one iota.
The problem is, the way people discuss their stance/opinion.
Im willing to bet that most of the people who opposed your stance/opinions, wud have explained their side in much nicer, meaningful way if they spoke to you in person.
When we go explaining to Balei Teshuva, or any Yid who seek guidance, we explain it with patience and warmth.
I think that the biggest drawback of discussing things on a forum, is that you lose the sense of the “person” behind the screenname.
Its much easier to yell/ argue harshly/ put down another person when your doing it to a “screenname”.
Now, please dont’ misunderstand me. If s/o brings a proof for shulchan Aruch that s/t is allowed or not allowed, there can be NO compromises on that ( even if many pp have decided to ignore the halacha and do as they wish).
If we even start compromising on halacha, it goes down from there, becuase there is no end to where else we start to become lax about…
However ( and this is to the general CR public), more than often, situations arise that are “grey”, where one Rov approves of a certain custom while others don’t.
There is not need to bash one side over the other but to respecfully agree to disagree.
Aries, im sorry that your life experience has lead you to lose hope and faith in Rabbanim. I can imagine that being heartbreaking and depressing because our rabbanim are our leaders.
However know that we are in Dor of Ikva Demeshischa ( era of Mashiach) where it has been prophesized that there will be confusion at same time there will be influx of knowledge.
( unfort. we live in an era where not every “rebi” is a Rov…there’s a big difference)
I strongly recommend you find yourself a mentor, a Rov, who
is earnest in Yiras Shamayim and is baki in Torah and whom you can
trust.
Hatzlacha!