It’s the women who are more behind this than the men”
No, Poppa, it is the yeshivos and SEMINARIES who fill girls’ heads full of opposing hashkofos, that are the real problem. On the one hand, they teach girls all their lives that it is their bautiful and most choshuv role to be the akeres habayis and raise the children. That they should not aspire to be like men, but rather to serve Hashem in the role which He assigned to them.
Then, all of a sudden when it is inconvenient for their husbands for them to do exactly that, they are suddenly brainwashed into believing they MUST marry a boy who does NOT earn a parnassah, but rather sits and learns while they a) run the household, b) have baby after baby, and c) DO HIS JOB THAT HASHEM DESIGNATED FOR HIM. And if they do not so choose, they are castigated for not being proper n’shei chayil. So what do you think they are going to think is what they must look for?