“I’m attacking the notion that a man should never, ever lay eyes on a woman in any way shape or form. “
for all those who believe its ok to look at women (not immediate family) just take a look in Mesilas Yesharim, Orchas Tzaddikim… and im sure theres many Seforim on halach that go through it. It’s not from me. These gedolai olam said it.
about the father dancing with his daughter at her wedding, i don’t think you can literally assur it. If someone really wants to do it , why can’t they do it privately in a separate room?