APushetaYid-
That reminds me of a speech that Rabbi Orlofsky gives-
He asks why doesnt your bashert just knock on your door and say “Hi I’m your bashert- where can I put my bags?”
Because Hashem does a favor for us by making us work hard for it so that we’ll appreciate it much more
He says it better…but that was the gist of it
(the whole speech is on Torahanytime.com)