Believe it or not I once witnessed the following:
A young man in his 20s was tragically murdered, leaving a poor widow with four small children. He left elderly parents and lots of syblings.
At the shiva, some idiotic woman who noticed the mother’s heart wrenching cries, piped up and said ‘You will have to learn to be ‘mekabel yisurim Bahava’!
INSENSITIVE is an understatement!!!