My grandmother told me that when you feel the “click” you’ll know she’s the right one.
After a few dates with my wife I had to seriously think if she was my bashert or not. I mentally replayed all of our dates replacing her face with the face of the least appealing person I dated to make sure it was her personality that I liked and not just her looks.
I was more positive that she was the right one but didn’t feel the “click” until my wife asked me if we can have an argument to see if we can agree to disagree. We had the argument (we still don’t agree on that issue) but we saw that we can respect each other’s opinion even if we don’t agree.
That’s when I felt we “clicked”.