But Oomis – for a wife to say she finds her husbands chest repulsive? Boy, have we got a dire need for a Rov to intervene. But not for the shaving heter. “
You should not be judgmental BP, about what women find attractive or not. And I would tend to think that no Rov would touch this one with a ten foot pole (and I do not know any woman who would be able to easily discuss this with a rov, anyway).
Plenty of men would be repulsed if their wives did not shave their legs and underarms. Why should a woman not likewise be allowed to have preferences in how her husband is groomed whether it is facially or otherwise? Thw bottom line is that he should be attractive to her (as is proper). The question is and was, it is ASSUR for him to shave his chest? It’s not for us to criticize any woman who doesn’t like chest hair. This is something a frum woman would not likely know until she is married. We are not talking about something outlandish here. Whether I think a guy should do this or not, if it is within halachic parameters, it is none of my business to say yea or nay.