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References are a double edged sword. What does a mother expect to find out from another twenty something, the prospect’s very good friend. Would the young woman give a reference that didn’t think she was the cat’s meow? Of course her references would absolutely “die” for her. And any mother that checks her references by calling her friends deserves whatever she gets. The only reason someone should call those references IS to hear how wonderful the girl is. Other references are usually Teachers, Rabbonim, and other adults. When you decide to call young people it is only to confirm the good things you already heard.